Saturday, June 5, 2010

Change..........it's hard.



There have been a lot of things changing around here lately.  The weather- spring to summer.  School ending and enrolling for kindergarten.  A neighbor has moved in nearby with a child the same age as Abby (4-5 years old) that has proven to be challenging with boundaries and Abby has been on several playdates without me with other kids from school.  While all this stuff is exciting, it also has been emotional.    After speaking to an older friend the other night who has three children (now all grown up with children of their own), she hit the nail on the head for me.  She said it is tough because this is the age where you are starting to let the world in.   Talk about an A-HA moment for me!  She was so right.    Up until now the girls and I have participated in everything together, I make up all the fun, I decide who they will play with, when, where etc.  And now, there are other influences in the world that I can't control.   I am not saying this from a controlling point of view.  I say this from the protective point of view- how I want my children to be raised, what influences they will have, to be kind and courteous to others, when to say yes and when to say NO.

I know the best I can do is teach them at home with my husband and family and when they head out into the world HOPE what they have learned at home stays with them.


5 comments:

  1. Right there with you friend but so nicely put and great photos! Even though the days can be crazy, we love them and will cherish them. You could always go for # 3 ;)

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  2. Yeah, terrifying. This September Oliver will be under someone else's care for the first time (other than a few hours here and there...), Julia will be starting kindergarten, and I will be going back to work. It's so scary, but you know it's a part of growing up. You just hope they listen, remember, and still love you at the end of it!

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  3. Just to make you feel better, you are never allowed to bring the girls to our house for a play date without staying here to hang out with me. How's that for controlling! And, who's your wise older friend, and does she want three more kids? Just kidding!

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  4. Well said. I couldn't agree with you more.

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  5. If you think it is hard now, wait until they hit middle school!

    You turned out to be a great person and parent and so will Abby and Olivia.

    Mom

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